YOU´VE GOT ONE LIFE - YOU'RE NOT HERE TO PLAY NICE, SMALL OR PRETTY.

Only, so that you can fit into misogynist, racist structures. Our society has become a bully. It's time to create a new one where you are valued for what you can and wish to share and not for things you had no power over.

A GAME WHERE WE CAN ALL BE WINNERS.

Are you ready to play?

SPOILER ALERT: YOU GET TO MAKE ALL THE RULES.

Self-awareness, consciousness, whatever you want to call it, needs to be the ground floor of your house. And when it is, there are no limits to how high you can build. You will free yourself from old structures and start living in a new dimension where they don't hold any power over you anymore.

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As a woman of a minority I was constantly checking with my surroundings if everything was OK, never feeling like I truly belonged. Representing my minority and working in male-dominated fields, it was troublesome to establish an identity of my own. Only when I stopped playing by these inhumane and suppressive rules, I was free and I realized how many glass ceilings I had over my head. NOTHING FEELS BETTER THAN SMASHING THEM. So, I made it my mission to help others do the same. I want to hear your story, feel free to contact me. Love Louise

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You'll get simple (always) science-backed tools (we love science), hints & insights on how you can become the best version of yourself and lead the life you were born to live. 

YOU WERE BORN TO BE YOU.

But who are you?

Do you really know? It's not easy. A large proportion of the population is living under constant abuse. If you aren't slim enough you aren't successful or pretty enough.

God forbid, you have the "wrong" skin color, ethnicity, or sexuality. Our focus is outside, seeking validation from someone who never gives it to us. 

We let others define us from when we are children and don't take the necessary time to redefine it for ourselves as we grow up.

YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT YOU;

  • ARE VALUABLE
  • HAVE GIFTS THAT SERVE SOMETHING BIGGER THAN SOME BANK ACCOUNT
  • DECIDE YOUR OWN LIMITS
  • DESERVE TO BE FREE

So many times I've met brilliant people, held back by lack of representation, misogynist, or racist stereotypes.

GLASS CEILINGS ARE REAL.

But they only have power as long as they are in our head. Therefore, if we break them there, we can break them everywhere.

EVERYTHING MAN-MADE CAN BE MAN-SLAYED! IT'S TIME TO BREAK SOME GLASS CEILINGS AND REACH YOUR FULLEST POTENTIAL. ALL YOU HAVE TO REALLY DO IS GET TO KNOW YOURSELF. EVERYTHING IS AN INSIDE JOB.

BENEFITS:

  • KNOWING YOURSELF (side effect: BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF OTHERS)
  • CONNECT YOUR DOTS/ FIND YOUR PURPOSE
  • BREAK FREE FROM OLD BELIEFS 
  • DISCOVER AND UNFOLD YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF
  • THE BOSS OVER EMOTIONS & THOUGHTS 

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YOUR FREEDOM IS MY FREEDOM

Hey, I'm Louise a petite brown girl, who grew up in the land of the tall, blonde and beautiful. YES! Sweden. I was born in paradise, but faith wanted something different (maybe because of my heat intolerance?). After having spent three months in a Salvation Army orphanage in Colombo, Sri Lanka, a sweet Swedish couple adopted me. Instead, I grew up on another island, not so much in the sun; cold, rainy and, windy Hisingen in Gothenburg.

I guess you can imagine how it might have been, being a brown girl in Sweden; as a minority and female, growing up in a different culture? Let’s just say; for someone not fitting in at all, I became pretty great at it.

It often felt like Twilight zone; having white, middle-class parents with a “white world”-perspective, I had all the benefits of a white person. My culture was “white European”. Hey, I would even sometimes “forget” that I wasn’t white myself. But now and then there would be these, I like to call them, "pretty-woman" moments. When someone would feel the urge to remind me; ”You can dress up all that you want, you'd still never play in our league”.

THE FEELING OF SECURITY, FROM SIMPLY FITTING IN, WASN'T AVAILABLE TO ME BECAUSE OF MY ETHNICITY

It felt so unfair, being treated so differently for something I had no power over. Bullying and harassment made it so that I was never allowed to feel safe, outside of my home.

Feeling secure is a basic human need, deeply rooted in us since the beginning of mankind, when being excluded would mean death. And rather than elevating me, society would deliver evidence after evidence to my mind, telling me how lucky I was not having to grow up in such a poor, underdeveloped country or how inadequate and unworthy I was - through everything from representation to stereotypes- If not for being a brown girl - then for simply being a girl.

Louise Harms, born in Sri Lanka, raised in Sweden, living in Berlin, Germany. Visionary and Freedom lover. A stoic, Buddhist, Bon vivant - ready for a world where we are all winners.

I WAS ALWAYS REPRESENTING A GROUP, NEVER "JUST MYSELF"

On my quest; finding freedom, I found myself attracted to what at first felt like more open environments. The Music-business, subcultures, working as a festival booker. I loved that job - it was great fun. But it didn’t take long before I noticed that there was a system of elitism here as well. Where one was valued after knowledge, record collections and, how you looked. I felt bored over the superficial settings as my experiences had pushed me inwards more and more.

AS LONG AS I DID WHAT WAS EXPECTED OF ME I WAS ACCEPTED

As long as I did exactly what was expected of me, I was invited and accepted. But when I did something outside, I would instantly feel the cold and even get in trouble for it.

This very manipulative game society is playing with most of us, but with minorities, marginalized groups, and women the most, kept me from daring to take risks out of fear of failing and not being accepted. For a long time, it held me back and I experienced "glass ceilings" almost in every situation I was in.

2007 my search took me to Berlin. I hadn’t been there before I decided to move, but something deep inside was calling. I fell in love with the city already on the bus from Tegel-Airport. I realize now that I must’ve had the nicest BVG-chauffeur ever on that first TXL-bus ride, as he said he had no change for my 50 Euro bill, but that; "You ought to hop on anyway, nobody cares about that here”.

Freedom.

THIS WAS TRUE LOVE

I found it here, in huge parks, dark clubs, dirty bars surrounded by other people yearning to be themselves. It didn't happen instantaneous, as it took a lot of deprogramming. I’d played the game for so long. I hadn’t realized that I could create freedom myself, simply by being true to myself, not letting old structures stand in my way. And here I was, in a new country, new city, and I had to learn a whole lot of new, crazy structures. I played along. Until one day, I hit rock bottom as the result of years of not letting my heart and spirit get heard.

I got into a dangerous situation that I had to take full responsibility for.

I didn’t have a choice anymore. I had to be me and only I had the responsibility and power to be exactly that. And I got rewarded immediately. The love I felt inside. The connection to everything living. It was magical. This was true love.

THE ONLY WAY OUT OF IT IS TO GO IN

If we don’t work on our self-awareness we will be controlled by our “default settings“ and run on auto-pilot instead of being in power, driving. I was now in the driver's seat and I loved it. I didn’t want to play anyone's game but my own anymore.

No more staying submissive under the constructs that are bullying us into being robots. Even by being against them, we are keeping them alive. We need to create something new and live it, to re-write the current script we have been programmed to run and the key is self-awareness and staying true to oneself.

WE CAN END INEQUALITY

We can end racism, suppression, and marginalization by surrendering to becoming our authentic selves and taking full responsibility for everything in our lives. Other people will still "happen" to us, but with the right knowledge we can build up healthy resilience, in control over the reactions.

Personally, it was a lot of pain coming out after a life of being bullied by abusive structures. And people using them to control you, some without even knowing it. For a great part of my life, I was depressed and harboring a lot of anger. This pain is now my strength, my love, my humility for life, and everything living.

EVEN THE PEOPLE AT THE TOP ARE CHASING GOALS THAT ARE NOT THEIR'S

There are no winners in the current system. Even the people at the top are chasing goals that are not theirs. Hoping they will get accepted, feel valued, become successful and happy.

WE ARE NATURE

It’s time to break free.

I believe that our future as a species depends on it. Nature doesn't care about structures. Nature wants us to be, have fun, live and enjoy life to the fullest; here and now. Nature isn't separated from us  - we are nature.

We have so much power within us if we take the time to actually get to know ourselves. We work and work and work on so many things - except ourselves and that's like polishing a car, but never check the engine. You might end up not going anywhere.

CREATE THE REALITY THEY WISH FOR THEMSELVES AND FUTURE GENERATIONS

My mission is to mentor visionaries and game-changers, who know deep down, that the current structures are not of service to mankind. I get them back to their true identity, freed from superficial programming. And I show them how to heal from the trauma they have experienced from generation to generation. So that they can create the reality they wish for themselves and future generations.

I mostly mentor in English but Swedish is my mother tongue and German works just fine as well.

Don’t worry about me ever judging you. No one is perfect and that is your biggest strength and where we can grow. Enough of being pushed into the same mold. What’s important is always “here and now” and who you want to be. And that is within your power to decide, every minute of the day.

        love,

    Louise

TESTIMONIALS

When Louise and I started the coaching sessions, I felt my life was falling apart and I was losing grasp of my mindfulness routine – which usually helps me staying in balance through the storm. Louise helped a lot by gently pushing me to practise daily exercises and even try out new ones. Her care, tenderness and suggestions helped me find my way back into a balance I still find myself in a couple of months later. – Eva
My first impression of Louise is that she is a very open-minded and none judgemental person. She doesn't pretend she knows more and she really listens to what I have to say. I also feel comfortable when talking to her. Throughout the one-month journey we took together, she helped me look at things that I already have planned but forgotten, good experiences I may have had but left a while ago, and most important of all, the abilities to always centre and outshine myself. The conversation between us was a circle of giving and receiving, a very well-balanced exchange. My takeaway from the sessions is that I am calibrated for whatever is coming in the future.
Especially during pandemic times when a lot of activities were not possible and social contacts were very limited Louise's mentoring helped me focusing on the little but important things of life. I learned enjoying even the daily routines and how to (re-)activate my senses e.g. while cooking. And I was able to establish a kind of mindfulness during my daily walks. And last but not least I really enjoyed our weekly web calls :-)

IN OUR SOCIETY NO ONE IS ENOUGH!

Can I ask you to please think back to the schoolyard? I know it was harsh for many of you, so please bear with me.

Remember how there was always that one kid, more singled out than others, and then on the other side another kid, not rarely in a lot of pain, turned into aggression, bullying the first kid around in the worst possible way.

And then it was the rest and the grown-ups, mostly just trying to survive the day, most of the time in silence, looking away – out of fear of becoming the next one the bully decides to single out and thereby becomes excluded by the group. A state that at the beginning of mankind meant death.

The fear of rejection is therefore deeply rooted in all of us and in our current, inhumane social structure, it's the glue that keeps it together.

In our society, no one is enough. It's time to change that, for the sake of our future as a species.

This is a small, graspable view, that almost every single one of us recognize. What many of us have yet not realized is that exactly that scenario is being reproduced in our society as a whole. In organizations, businesses, and politics.

This bullying comes in many shapes and forms; if it's not about unreachable beauty ideals then we are not successful enough. Then the strategic and more hardcore stuff such as racism, misogyny, and basically shutting down anyone trying to be themselves outside of the already scripted norm. 

As long as we to work against it, we will stay controlled by it; playing the script which is hurting us. It's time we write a whole new script, and it can be done by raising our consciousness to another level. 

IDENTIFY AND BECOME AWARE OF THE TWO MAJOR OPPONENTS

  1. The bully constantly telling us that we are not enough. Either we aren’t pretty, slim, or have the right title. Or we have the wrong skin color/ethnicity or we happen to love someone we are not supposed to love.
  2. The second is the fear of rejection and being excluded from the group. A fear that is with us since the beginning of mankind and is being used throughout our society in everything from small groups, families, large organizations, and in society as a whole and keeps us silently watching or in some cases even supporting the bully. It's the glue that keeps it together.

There is a way to end this; it’s called Self-Awareness

By becoming aware of the structures that hold us back and training our own self-awareness, we can break free from this negative form of control and finally break the glass ceilings we have over our heads.
If we break them there we can break them anywhere.

BENEFITS:

  • ERASE BLOCKAGES CREATED BY LIVING IN CONSTANT DISCRIMINATION
  • UNCOVER YOUR WORTH AND INFINITE POSSIBILITIES
  • FIND YOUR PURPOSE
  • FIND AND ALLOW YOURSELF TO LIVE YOUR TRUE IDENTITY
  • DEVELOP AN UNSHAKABLE MINDSET
  • CREATE A WORLD THAT WILL BE SAFE FOR YOU AND FUTURE GENERATIONS
The truth is; success, happiness, and beauty are all very individual experiences. And the only way to reach them is to find out exactly what they mean to you.
The truth is; success, happiness, and beauty are all very individual experiences. And the only way to reach them is to find out exactly what they mean to you.

REMEMBER:


  • We are all perfectly imperfect creations of a Master Mind called nature
  • We are all born enough, that has not changed. You are enough!
  • We are all good at something and our joy is our key to finding that

Everything is an inside job. Are you ready to start the revolution?

Then...

MAXIMIZE - 4 STEPS TO CONNECTION, AUTHENTICITY & FREEDOM

Can we really know the world if we don’t truly know ourselves? 

The answer is no. 

That’s why self-awareness and mindfulness should be taught already in school. 

The most magical place anyone can find is that place within when we know what our bodies are capable of, sending that evidence to our mind and our mind is connected with our spirit, soul, heart, or whatever you want to call it, so we can expand on every level of ourselves.

How does that work...

STAGE 1. ACTIVATE SENSES & ZEN RITUALS

Start with the body. The assets we already have. Get them back to life.

Our senses are our bodies’ very own keys to the present moment. They also strengthen our focus and make us become more aware. The more we use them, the more heightened they get and want to come out and "play" - maximizing our entire experience of life.

STAGE 2. DATE YOURSELF

Many of us are so focused on the outer world we forget about ourselves. However everything starts and ends with you. If you don’t have a good relationship with yourself, you won’t have one with others. As simple as that. Take some time to just have a cup of coffee with you. Getting to know ones own thoughts, emotions and boundaries is key to getting more self-aware and will help you strengthen your intuition, reactivating that inner guidance we all have inside.

STAGE 3. ACCEPTANCE & NON-JUDGING

To rewire our brain we need to become aware of the patterns we have already made. A lot of the time we don’t allow ourselves the emotions and thoughts that we have. However accepting them is necessary to get rid of them. First when we do, we can start making conscious decisions about them.

STAGE 4. FOCUS ON YOU & THE REST WILL FOLLOW

Life starts and ends with you. However, very few of us are taught to help ourselves first and to show ourselves love and compassion, but it’s the most important part of a fulfilled life. All the most successful hits you’ll ever read about were inside jobs. Why would life be any different? It’s time to start defining happiness, success and anything else after your own parameters. You're the boss.

MISSION

I am on a mission. For a long as I can remember freedom was always part of my blueprint. And not just freedom for me, but freedom for all of us. Being a minority identifying as a woman, I was already subject to inequality and the suppression, control, and bullying that follows it, from an early age. I just never felt or believed that it had a place in modern society. I found a way to break free and build an unshakable foundation to stand on. Self-awareness is key. First, we become conscious about ourselves on this planet. Then about what game we wish to part take in.  We all have this one life and it's valuable. You are valuable and significant - it's time to tell that bully off and start creating a safe world with a lot of connection, love, and harmony for anyone that wants it.

If you want to get some tips and reminders on how, you in simple ways, can become more mindful. Join my Facebook group here.

VISION

Making self-awareness easy, fun and accessible, so that more people can enjoy all the benefits - such as acceptance, self-worth, resilience, and enjoying the freedom that comes with being aware of our emotions and thoughts.

The times we are living in are challenging and the more people we have in a conscious state of mind, the more people we have ready to create solutions for themselves and others - the greater the chance we have of building a grandiose future for ourselves and the upcoming generations.

PLEASE MIND THE GAP BETWEEN THE PAST & THE FUTURE...

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